Dan Stringer

navigating the convergence of faith, culture and the common good

Category: grief

April 20, 2011

Grief journal (5 months)

“Sorrow is no longer the islands but the sea.” –Nicholas Wolterstorff, Lament for a Son So this is it. Life without Vincent. Me no like. I still want him back. Everyday. Next month is going to be especially difficult. Mother’s Day is May 8. Vincent’s birthday is May 10. My graduation is May 14. We...

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March 20, 2011

Grief journal (4 months)

“Catastrophic loss by definition precludes recovery. It will transform us or destroy us, but it will never leave us the same. There is no going back to the past, which is gone forever, only going ahead to the future, which has yet to be discovered. Whatever that future is, it will, and must, include the pain...

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February 25, 2011

The best sermon I’ve heard on suffering

Growing up in an evangelical household, attending a Christian high school and a Christian college, I’ve heard a lot of sermons in my day. Good ones, lousy ones, eloquent ones, rambling ones, condescending ones and fantastic ones. I’ve even been known to preach a few mediocre ones myself but that’s another can of grubs. Thankfully,...

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February 20, 2011

Grief journal (3 Months)

“I almost prefer the moments of agony. These are at least clean and honest. But the bath of self-pity, the wallow, the loathsome sticky-sweet pleasure of indulging it—that disgusts me.” –C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed To grieve is to be excessively picky. Say this, not that. A pinch of comfort, but hold the clichés. A...

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January 20, 2011

Grief journal (2 months)

“When we gather now there’s always someone missing, his absence as present as our presence, his silence as loud as our speech.” –Nicholas Wolterstorff, Lament for a Son Vincent died two months ago today. Seems like forever. Feels like yesterday. I think about him all the time, but not often enough. I hate crying, but...

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December 11, 2010

From a Father’s heart

Here is the text of what I shared at Vincent’s memorial service on December 3: Five years ago, I stood before many of you at the memorial service for my father, Ron Stringer, who passed away in October 2005 at the age of 56. I had just turned 25 when we lost my dad, and...

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November 20, 2010

On Losing Vincent

Is this really happening? Did my 18-month old son really just die today? Did I really just hold him for the last time?  Did Theo really just become an only child? Yesterday, there were two cute little boys under our roof. Tomorrow, there will be one. Our household of four is now a family of...

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